I mentioned in my last post that I am an introvert, however I have done some research and I am actually an ambivert.
a person who has a balance of extrovert and introvert features in their personality.
A couple of weeks ago I went out for dinner with some mums from school. There was 8 of us and I chatted and laughed and would’ve stayed out longer, if I didn’t have to take kids to cricket at 7.00am the next morning. At 7.00am the next morning I sat on my fold out camp chair under a tree and watched my boy play cricket, this was after I had said a quick hello to the team parents and paid the weekly fee for the end of year party.
The difference is the mums that I went to dinner with I have got to know over a long period of time. I have slowly and at my own comfortable pace got to know them and love them. The lady that I talk about in my blog all the time as my bestie, literally had to force herself on me to actually get me to open up and chat to her. I am glad she persisted otherwise I wouldn’t have my lovely friend.
The mums in the cricket team I have only met this season and am not comfortable just inserting myself in their conversation.
See once I get to know people, I am very extroverted and happy to hold a conversation and hang out. My core group of family and friends, I absolutely love to death. I find stimulating, deep and meaning conversation one of life’s biggest joys. I do however like to spend time on my own, and find it draining and stressful if I have a particularly busy week with social engagements. I get nervous and anxious meeting new people or people that I haven’t seen for a while. If I am going to a party or event where I don’t know many people, I always want to cancel. I don’t though. Part of the reason that I started this blog was to try and open myself up a bit more. The #sistertribe posts that are on the blog, are another way of me being a bit more extroverted. I find them extremely stressful, the interview and the writing but also rewarding.
I found a few other characteristics of an ambivert below:
- When you’re out in the world, you’re probably not going to be starting conversations with strangers.
- When a topic of interest comes up in conversation, you’re more than happy to talk in great detail about it. But as soon as that’s done, you’ll happily sit listening to the conversation without saying another word.
- Spending too much time with other people can be exhausting.
- Your calm, controlled professional self feels like a very different person to the one your friends see.
- Small talk is something that annoys you, because while you can do it, there are instances when it feels a bit insincere.
- Some weekends, you just need to spend some time hanging out on your own. And some of the best weekends of your life have been when you didn’t go home for three days.
- You’re known to be quite intuitive and good at picking up signals that other people can miss.
- Often, you just find yourself observing what’s happening around you.